Interestingly, I was thinking along the same lines. I was thinking,as long as I see myself as a BPDer, I'm going to continue to hate myself. I talked a little to my T and asked if it could be relational trauma. He's more of a DID kind of person so I don't think he thinks that. Relational trauma includes when our parents don't accept parts of themselves so they can't accept like parts of ourselves. I think people who are hypersensitive, that it feels traumatic. THis thought helps me NOT hate myself. I don't think things always gave to be done with malice (although theymight have been) for it to be trauma. This makes me forgive myself for how I've acted in the past, etc. Not sure if this helps any, but thank you so much for your post!