Sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time, there's really an awful lot happening in your life at the moment.

I think, trauma work in therapy should happen when you are ready for it. T giving a small nudge might be ok, but 'forcing' you head on into confrontation is not ok.

My T keeps emphasizing that stability is important for trauma work. Stability as in life circumstances as well as the client learning to find stability on their own...

Trauma work in itself can be quite exhausting, so stable life circumstances do help in the process to find one's balance again.

Do talk with you T about this and be open, trust your gut feeling/s. That you feel that this is not the right timing for you. And you are the person that matters most in this therapy process.

Wishing you all the strength you need in this difficult time.
c_r