Broken trust is a big thing in relationships. Since I was monitored once (and lied to about it) --- I assume it is either still happening or will happen again if the person monitoring feels like they have something to gain. It is harder to be emotionally intimate in conversations. Plus, so many of the conversations I have with this person are about the person using me to collect information (Am I paranoid to think this?). The upside is that I, for the most part, I talk less now. When I talk to much, it is annoying. Though I am not completely cured; over the weekend, when I felt defensive about things I was being questioned about, I started talking about all kinds of things at once. When I really don't want to talk about something I tend to talk more and my conversations are harder to follow because I talk about multiple things at one time. I am a terrible liar but a natural deflector. But if you can get the other person to talk, you learn so much more!!