Still at a loss--- He never use to be like this - actually i use to handle all the finances- however we lost our home due to him spending too much on drugs and alcohol then. Since we have moved away from where i grew up back to where he grew up i was doing most of the bills(i do not make much at a non-profit organization but i love my job)just recently over the past year he started taking over_which some i don't mind but to tell me and constantly question where my money is going is not fair . it hurts everytime--- we have three kids two at home both teenagers- i buy all food, pay for tv,electric, water- vets, doctors medications trash pick up ,propane not to mention gas for my job- i dont drink or smoke and i shop at goodwill he pays for the mortgage, insusrance for house and cars,property taxes and car payment. he is also suppose to pay for upkeep of the vehicles(he had a cow tues for the 25$ to have my oil changed. he also pays for his cigs(i do sometimes)his gas and oil to heat. class dues , field trips, cell phone pictures _ i usually beg and borrow to pay for - i'll work overtime wich is not easy with my lupus and fibromyalgia which i go paralyzed from. I ve tried talking to him- i keep my check book open for him to see- i buy nothing- but i cant even buy what we need. I have medical and dental taken out of my check also- he said he'd pick it up at his job but i'll have to pay him for it?????????.HELP...i feel soo stuck and alone--i never had $$$trouble b4 this.