Wow i am surprised to read all this, because from your posts, i thought you were my third twin in t.

First off, it reminds me of when my longterm t, many years ago, said to me regarding having children, "why would you deprive yourself of one of life's greatest pleasures?"

The other thing is - an easy relationship with your t is not necessarily something that just happens naturally. For me, i made a decision (after about 3 or 4 years) that i just wasnt going to fight my t any longer. I announced it to him, and i asked for his help in stopping it, as i had a habit of "just saying no" to any of his suggestions. Its a very hard habit to break.

Anyway, i wish you luck.