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Originally Posted by feileacan
But this would mean that he would somehow win. And he would be probably pleased for me and I don't want to give him this feeling. I want to deprive him from any satisfaction from working with me. I don't know how I could accept him getting something good out of our work.
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So maybe you can start talk about this feeling. To find out why you don't want him to 'win'.
I'm pretty sure it's not so much about your T but about someone who was your parent/caregiver in your younger years... And about your younger self which wasn't seen/heard at the time and therefore is angry.
Pressure doesn't help. But maybe you as an adult could start to view your T as an ally to help your younger part/s to get their needs met - finally?