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Originally Posted by cinnamon_roll
So my T would ask in a situation like this: What do you need from me right now to make you believe deep down that this isn't true, that I don't feel that you are difficult/annoying/a nuisance etc.?
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My T asks a similar question, I never know what to say. When I am in these states, I never know what T can say/do that will get me to believe again. I usually just need time for the "tantrum" to fade or that child part get so tired/exhausted that it goes to sleep. Well, that is how it feels for me or the best way I can describe it. It really feels like I am going through a tantrum... a 2 yr old, 5 yr old, or a teenager's tantrum. Or maybe it's a combination... the 2 yr old's fear, 5 yr old's hurt, with the teenager's lack of trust/belief and anger, and the adult's shame, embarrassment, logical rationalizations...