I see several good pieces of advice, suggestions, and support in all the previous posts. What has stood out for me is that concept of then he will "win". What are you "losing" if he wins?

For me it does become a conscious choice to share. I make the decision of the who, what, where, when I am going to share something and then I do stuff that makes it so I can't really back out... like emailing it right before session, or as in now, I write it in my journal and it gets handed over to T.

I've also started allowing different things to happen in session that are just experiences... so as my T is fond of saying, the hour is mine to do with as I wish, how do I want to spend the time. Granted there are limits; however, there are less than what I would have initially thought and feared. So, maybe doing other things, other forms of communication would be helpful, if you want help.

- physical movement while talking... walks, playing games, passing a ball back and forth between your hands or between you and T.
- sharing things that have meaning to you, music, art, poems, books
- changing how you sit in the room... sitting, laying, on the floor, standing, opposite chairs
- communicate through writing your thoughts while in session rather than verbally or perhaps as other suggested through drawing

One thing that has also worked for me is to say those random single words that do come through regardless of what they are or how the fit. For example, I might be telling T about something that happened and I start to shut down, start to hit the emotional stuff and not just the facts of the story. Either my head goes blank or so much is yelling in there that I don't want to say... then I'll say something like quicksand or ladder - it's really abstract.

But again, before any of these or other suggestions will work, you have to decide what you want, what you are trying to achieve by going. Cuz as ATAT said, you could stop going and then you'll "win" or would that be "losing"?