Hi,
I just wanted to know all the possible socio-psychological situations and impacts that could appear in my life if i marry a very an apparently very sober and nice 27 yr old woman (2 yrs older than me) with an adorable 4 yr old son.
What i need advice on:
a) I understand i'll have to control my desires since the boy would be sharing his mother with me, but to what extent could that go? (Its a marriage based on empathy and good will since i love to give to humanity in general) I havent fallen in love with her yet but shes really worth it

b) How could i spend private time with her since the boy is just 4 yet?
c)Could single mothers generally have a niche in their heart for sex the way a bachelor girl does? (Im very desirable among women in general)
d)How could i steer the relationship in a positive direction if say i marry her

Generally my main concern is that the woman would not tend to my needs since im a virgin and im afraid i'll make it difficult for her regarding the son and psychological sharing thing, obviously i wont sleep with her and the boy in the same bed What should i decide with that any single mothers out there with advice?
Thank you in advance