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mainly we just go over the same minor issues. I really want to talk about some things, but it is like my words are stuck deep inside and I can't get them out.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Do you think that partly this could be because you just started therapy with this therapist and don't really know him well and haven't yet established a strong level of trust? I think it is not uncommon when starting to take a while to get into things as you get to know the therapist. Maybe you are just working on minor issues right now in order to build trust.

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How do you tell someone about your worst childhood memory when the whole thing was a horrible mess?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Maybe you don't need to start with your worst memory. How about some painful ones, but not the most painful? Then work up to the baddies.

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the therapist is at a loss

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Has he said this? In general, I think most therapists have experience with getting to know clients and have patience with the process of getting them to open up. Could it be that it is more you who are impatient rather than the therapist? It is not a bad thing for the client to be impatient--it shows a strong desire to heal. So this sounds very positive to me. You want to be in therapy, an essential ingredient for success in therapy.

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Each time I do see him, I feel like he is wondering why I am there.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">How about suggesting to your T that the two of you work together to do some goal setting for therapy? Then you two will be on the same page. As one of your goals, for example, you could say that you want to deal with some painful childhood memories. Then at least, he will know that this is what you are working up to.

Good luck.