Well, we never did talk. She is still as cold as she was when I came home. I been back now for 4 months from deployment. All the of the stuff my kids told me that happened while I was deployed she still lies about and says it didn't happen. My kids told me last night they met up with the guy from her class and ate dinner with him (Mind you this guy is married). I was told by her mother that she doesn't want to go back to the way it was and the way I am acting is making he feel that she is handling her life as she doesn't see changes in me...I just need to know if I should give up. I do admit I been kind of pushy with everyone cause I'm frustrated, confused and there seems to be a lot of lies. I'm definitely not happy and it sucks to be separated. Does anyone have any tips for me? She is also being controlling with the schedule I have with my kids. I don't mind having my kids as much as I want but the schedule is never stable as I need time after work to attend appointments ect. I just feel she is over it but there is alsos that shot at hope that things will work out and I can have my family back again. I'm getting to the point where I don't think it will happen and I don't know what else to do. It's frustrating when I get my kids and they talked about going out to eat with this guy, the guy whonmybwife slept at his house with my kids, hung out with while I was deployed ect. I been married 8 years and at 10 she rates half my military retirement. I have to make a decision soon