've been trying to get a divorce for over 3 yrs. My divorce is not final, but a few months ago I decided to start dating again. I didn't expect much because I'm in my 40's, a single working mom, and full time student with not a lot of free time.

My ex was extremely overweight and most of my 12 years of marriage and the 3 years spent getting a divorce has been without sex. My ex stopped having regular sex with me years ago pretty much after my child was born. He said I was too fat (even though he weight twice as much as me!) so right now I'm a little scared of my sexuality. ALSO let me stress that my son has never met any of my dates and I don't plan to introduce him until I find someone who will be around for a while.

Guy #1 - My very first date was with a 30 yr old man very handsome and in excellent shape. We are currently still seeing each other. I was and still am freaked about the age difference.
We don’t have much in common but sexually he's incredible.

Guy #2 - Is a sweetheart. Already, he tries to plan his days around my free time and he definitely is looking for a permanent relationship. He texts me twice a day and calls often. He wants me to go everywhere with him. Mentally we click, but physically, he doesn't do it for me.

Guy #3 - Is also unbelievably attractive and athletic. Right now we're just talking but haven't gone out yet but I really, really, want to. Adding Guy #3 is probably spreading myself too thin.

I think I owe it to Guy #2 to let him know that I'm not ready for a serious relationship yet. I know he would make a great boyfriend but after working so hard to get myself back in shape, an awful spouse, etc... I just want some eye candy for once in my life.

Is this immature or just a stage that you go through once you start dating again?