im sorry but i really despise abstinence only education. over half the population is divorced. actually its closer to about 60%. over a quarter of women after they get divorced end up in poverty. why would you want to buy into an institution thats based on that? just my opinion. you dont have to get married to love someone. my cousin and her s.o. have been together about 5 years and have 2 kids but will never get married. my aunt and her boyfriend have been together about 15 years and will never get married. there is absolutely nothing that says marriage will fix things. if you feel comfortable before then do it before then. if you never feel comfortable, then never do it. but dont set a point. cause thats when girls get so worried about getting married but not who theyre getting married to. they want the wedding and the wedding night but never think about who its with.

and think about how likely it is that the guy you meet will also be a virgin. not very. how would that make you feel to wait for 20 some odd years for this man and he didnt do the same? it puts everything on an unlevel playing field.

the best you can do is be safe. dont do it til youre emotionally ready, nothing else matters. and when you do it use a condom at least. if the guy actually cares about you then it shouldnt be a big deal for him to go get tested for stds.