i hate that saying, stay together for the kids. you guys might think that staying together is the better situation but its not. if you show no affection towards each other and never say i love you, thats what your son thinks a relationship is like. i have a very hard time showing affection and use sarcasm to heal instead of just being vulnerable. because my parents screamed and yelled and hated each other. are you going to stay because you cant get a job? i think that might be a sign that it wasnt really love in the first place. anyone can have a relationship but when you stay through the bad times, thats when you know its love. and if he doesnt want to stay then maybe that should tell you guys both something?