Dear Justpassingby,

I feel for you so much. I know exactly how you feel because my husband too told me about 6 months ago that he no longer loved me. My husband is the bi polar one in our relationship and unfortunately his feelings for me have been very back and forth. He didn't love me one month and then the next month he did and couldn't live without me. Now he says he still loves me dearly and always will, but he is also now divorcing me.

I honestly don't know what to say to you at this point. I am also a heartbroken person. I can tell you that staying with your husband because of your child will not do anyone especially your son any good. He will grow up watching two loveless people living together in a marriage and it will affect him as an adult in relationships.

Its unfortunate that things have to be the way they are at times. I can tell you that prayer has helped me and also talking to friends, some of which I met here, has helped me greatly.

As far as your financial situation, I don't know what your husbands income or job is, but if you do divorce he will be forced to pay your health insurance for your son until he is at least 18 or until he graduates from college and I'm sure he will have to pay for your health insurance too. You will definitely get child support and probably even spousal support since you do not work and I'm assuming have not worked in quite a while. So, there is hope if your marriage ends and honestly the financial part of your situation should be the last of your worries. A decent attorney can advise you on this kind-of stuff and some of them will even give you a free consultation (mine did). I understand how hard it is to not worry about the money and living circumstances you may face, but you would be surprised how things work out when life starts to happen.

Keep your chin up and you are in my prayers.

Laura