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Old Nov 30, 2007, 05:32 PM
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I do find though that things disappear and then I panic, searching, and yet not finding. Then later, that object will turn up as if it was never missing. My T said there are reasons for it and if it's meant to show up, it will. It usually does. Sometimes I discover the reason it disappeared for a while, sometimes not.

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So do you find the things because you suddenly have a part remember where it is (when it's time to be found), or do you find them simply because you happen to stumble across the item while doing something else?

Yesterday my T and I talked a bit about state dependant memories and how you don't necessarily need to lose time for memories to be inaccessable to other parts. It upsets me a lot that I have very very few memories. If that's why I can't find the dinosaur, it disturbs me quite a bit. I thought my parts were more open to each other than that.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.