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Originally Posted by Brokenmask94
My wife doesn't know that I cheated yet but I feel like I'm going to have to tell her soon because I ran into her friend earlier today and she threated to tell my wife what I did because I have been ignoring her for the past couple of days. I'm honestly very worried about how this going to affect my marriage because I do want to fix marriage but I'm just worried that I won't be able to do that if she finds out.
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Ok not to be harsh but to be real with you, I understand being worried about how it will affect your marriage but whether you fess up or she finds out another way or never does, it does affect your marriage and avoiding telling her only causes the effect to be internal with you, as in, it will be in your heart and on your mind that you know you're deceiving her. Do you want that?
Truth is, if you really are honest, I feel like you want this to go away as if it did not happen, and have your life and marriage go on normally, but is this realistic? If you honestly want to fix this, you MUST come clean or there can be no reconciliation. You cannot have true reconciliation and repair of a marriage with deception at it's core.
If you wanted to avoid the effects of adultery on your marriage, and I know you know this, you should have avoided it in the first place. But you are where you are and the effects are there. No matter what, what was done has passed and there's no changing that. Moving forward, coming clean and then reconciling with your wife is the only way.
Have courage and be honest with your wife. If you love her you know she deserves to know.