These things aren't who you are, these are things that happened to you, from the outside. This list shows you're a hard working, caring, resourceful, loving, sensitive, intelligent, (should I continue?). . . . person. Yes, reacting to this insensitive crap helped you become an overcomer and achiever, etc. but I wouldn't keep it around for anything now that you are the wonderful person you are? It's trash, baby! Garbage, even!