You contradict yourself by stating this is a place where advice and support should be given after saying we shouldn't tell anyone what to do. Exactly how does one give advice without actually telling someone what we think they should do?

I may be wrong but I assume your last statement was in response to mine. If you have a problem with anything I say or think it's not supportive or is disruptive and/or offensive please take it up with the admins and just report my post. Calling other posters out like this in the thread is also not supportive or productive to the op.