You know, strangely enough he was actually in some sense less revealing of himself. Now I recall that the first 3-4 months I couldn't sense him at all and he never reassured me in any way. For example if I told him how I see no point telling him anything (yep, the same theme occurred in some variation there too) because I mean nothing to him then he would never say that it's no true. He would rather say that I have such a bleak view of him. My T on the other hand would say that it's not true and that I'm important to him.

I think he was better able to sense my internal states at each moment and engage with those different states. My T does not understand by himself in which state I'm and either wants me to say it, to talk about it or he might ask a question about it and it annoys me terribly because I feel then that he talks about me but not to me.

It could be though that this other T reading my internal states so well was a lucky chance. It might be that if I demand anything like this from my T (especially considering that I don't tell him much about myself) then I'm really expecting him to read my mind, which is clearly unreasonable.