Hi Jinny, I like how Crayn0 put it! It is up to your kids to decide what type of relationship they want to have with their grandmother. I hope you can get past the guilt and not feel responsible for it all. Of course, I am sure that is easier said than done. I don't have kids so I am kind just saying what I am thinking--I don't really have experience in this area. But, know that I am here to listen and that I care about you.