I have a weirdly specific problem with my impulsivity. When it comes to dating, if I like the person I'm dating, I get way too excited and come on too strong and text too much. I even know I shouldn't be doing it, but I do it anyway. In like 5-6 years of being single, I've liked only two people (out of being on dates with around 20) and screwed both up by texting too much and coming on too strong. Things I NEVER do to women I'm not interested in, which ends up making them more interested in me.

I have some control. I don't say things like "I miss you" or other highly aggressive forms of "neediness", but I do enjoy talking to the person I like a lot and will attempt to start conversations with them too often, I guess.

Example: I just ruined a potential relationship with someone I had two VERY good dates with. We both really hit it off, were making future plans and dates (not super far out, but still), were very affectionate, and seemed really excited to see each other a lot. I got really into it and was sure this was going to turn into a real relationship, so I got ahead of myself and would do things like text multiple things in a row only to be returned with a text rarely. Like every 4-8 hours or once a day. She almost never texted me. Kind of drove me nuts and made me think she wasn't into me, but her texts that finally did come through were also excited. However, it was on the day of our third date that she texted me like an hour before to make a slight change of plans, but that the date was still on. That's fine. Date time rolls around and she doesn't show up nor do I ever hear from her again. That said, I sent three texts after her one (which was two small paragraphs, to be fair). One was saying that's fine. The next was double checking date time and making a joke about my messy room. The third was me be stupid and assuming her lack of a response meant she didn't like the joke, so I backtracked and said my room wasn't that messy. Seems so damn childish in hindsight -.-. I controlled my anger and just texted "ok..." like an hour after the date start time. Tried to play it cool by asking if she was ok the next day and cracked a joke about my messy room joke scaring her off. Nadda. Next day I snapped and sent a humongous mean text calling her out. Shouldn't have done that, but I was feeling very emotional, not that it mattered anyway. She had check ins on her social media and clearly had no reason to miss our date. She legit stood me up on a third date after nothing really egregiously wrong happened. ****ed up my weekend. I've never had that happen to me before.

I know what she did was ****ed up and probably says a lot about who she is, but a move like that had to be prompted by what I did and that's what I want to fix.

What do I do about this, moving forward? I don't want to ruin a third potential relationship for myself. These things don't happen for me very often, as I'm extremely guarded, so it's pretty devastating when I screw them up. I feel like maybe my emotions are getting bottled up and bursting out onto whatever person I start dating. Any tips and tricks to control emotionally impulsive moves?