I want to thank everyone for their wonderful advice here on this board. Luckily, as fate would have it, I had my therapy appointment today and we had a long hard talk about it. My therapist made some great points in saying that the most important in this whole thing is ME. I have enough trouble dealing with my own mess, my bipolar, disability, a job, my future, how to cope, how to survive each day myself. Put ME first he said.

That being said, and with everything I have read on this thread I think everyone is absolutely right. My therapist said "I know you Lynn, I have known you for ten years, you have a huge heart and a person like you would do anything to help another human being no matter what they have done." And he is absolutely right. I may not be a mother, but I sure have the instinct for it. Everything in me told me to "help this man" when he first told me. It was my gut instinct. But the more I thought about it, the more I let it sit in my mind, and especially now with all these wonderful responses from the people who care about me on this board, I am going to stop all contact with him.

Yes, I have his first and last name, and yes I read the article. It was pretty brutal. I actually ached inside after reading it several times. I am not judging him, but I couldn't bring myself to accept this man. He may deserve a second chance to live a happy life, but not with me. Not with me.

Thank you again for everyone who contributed to this thread. It made my decision to leave him be that much easier.