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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I want a mother who trusts and respects me.
She used to. I managed their store. I was entrusted and allowed some decisions.
I was even trusted as a teenager. I was left alone all summer.
It's really gotten much worse now in her old age. She doesn't trust anybody. She doesn't respect anybody. She's confused and making stupid choices.
I pleaded with the rest of the family, but they won't hear it.
She's been really stupid with her life. She manipulated me and my h financially in a really nasty way. Had she just been adult and honest (my dad too), we'd all be in a much better place.
I really don't miss her now. All she does is complain.
I miss who she once was. That woman is gone.
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You still love her. You are grieving.
I hope she finds peace soon; either before she goes or in the next life.
I am sure that if she has some kind of health crisis, you will rush to her side. From what you have posted, it seems that you know her better and have done more for her than any other daughter. Not that you are better than them, just that you do not have to feel guilty about taking a break from your mom's intense situation. I hope they eventually appreciate what you have done (They should). Try not to beat yourself up for your past mistakes about giving her money, etc--you did it because you loved her and were trying to help and because you trusted her (you were picturing the person she used to be).
So many people on PC have been hurt by one or both of their parents. I think JD is right that usually abusive parents were also abused (or came from a very tragic situation). You are lucky that you do not live under the same roof with her right now.