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Originally Posted by Pastel Kitten
My mom had an extremely abusive childhood and as a result, is very much like a broken child herself. She never got help for it. Growing up, this was very damaging to me. She definitely sent me mixed signals of love/hate.
Like what subtle lights said, my mom has a lot of fear and anxiety so role reversal started coming into play by the time I was 13. I was her personal therapist and/or mom.
It did show up in more mild instances throughout very early childhood though, like with needing reassurance from me about her own actions.
My mom is actually empathetic with me nowadays, but that's because after so many years of invalidating me she realized that she shares many of the same emotional struggles I do (thanks to her).
That empathy wasn't there growing up.
Parents who are hurt themselves really need to get help before having kids, in my opinion...
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Empathy - imagine. Imagine a mother with empathy - she would have your back because you are a vital, important and most beloved child to her and the ENTIRE family. She gets it, she gets you. She understands you and comes from a place of knowing YOU. There is love in that understanding. There is a fierceness in that loving but tempered with gentleness. There is no guessing her love. There is no guessing at all. She knows you and allows you to know her without fear, without letting you down. She's got your welfare in her heart. The family is your shield. You are safe knowing all of this. You will be able to trust for life.