Thanks Sunrise, but I have no doubt that he would never harm me, he's never been violent once in six years until now, and I know how he feels about violence toward women. What I do worry about is the example he's setting for our sons, and for what may happen with them in the future. What if one of the boys decides to tell Dad to "f-off" when they're teenagers, and it just so happens that Dad is having one of his "meltdowns"? If he EVER raised a hand to my boys, I don't care if they are 6, 16, 26 or 66, I would probably kill him with my bare hands! Really, all I want is for him to get HELP, and to deal with his issues and his past. I want him to be a mentally healthy person. Right now, he's not, and I think as long as I'm his crutch, and his scapegoat, nothing will change.