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Old Apr 19, 2017, 12:47 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
I never get angry at minor situations like incompetent employees or traffic.

Over the past two years, I have posted here daily. I have been triggered to hysteria (and diagnosed with an emotional disorder) over volatile relationships with my closest family members. (Specifically, husband and mother)

And it's not over perceived slights, it's over very real struggles.

Shakespeare, could you imagine having been the best child you could be, even giving your mother plenty of money and support, and she calls you a mercinery little b**ch?

It has been 24/7 for the past two months I've been reeling from this.

I think I am desensitized to smaller hurts because I've had to deal with such huge ones.
I do acknowledge that there are some issues where a reaction of anger is understandable. And in some situations it is an impetus for change.

But.... in my own life, I've decided that the negatives far outweigh the positives, at least in the way I experience and deal with anger. I believe there are ways that I can change for the better. I've had successes in the past by being honest about problems, being assertive, and thinking about ways I can change that would reduce my anger (like making a plan about what I will do next time).
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Last edited by shakespeare47; Apr 19, 2017 at 01:43 PM.