and like a flooded river it floods fast and lowers ever so slowly. This is how I feel about all the abusive relationships I was in. The river was lowering a little but is on the rise again. Tomorrow I have to face the abuser at the second pre-trial conference. This is the passive aggressive bully wife who had me have my cats put to sleep after I called the wedding off. She is very good at what she does. I know they have a thread for these types but after going to counseling a few times and reading about the disorder it's very hard to treat. She was so powerful that I'm a different person today than 10 years ago. We have not lived together for a year and a half. Even after she left the flood was rising. I have noticed the river went down a little but she doesn't want to lose me because I'm her favorite one to abuse. She can't stand it that I went public with this. The problem is no one believes me. She left in a hurry as they like to abandon there prey. It was no relief for her anymore when Was telling her what she was going to do next. Now in the divorce process and 4 attorneys later and $7,000.00 later I wonder am I doing the right thing?