And in answer to your other questions, I've been in therapy for 4 years now and really haven't gotten to the heart of the matter because it scares the *&$^ out of me. I've not been dating at this time - too much screwed up at the moment as it is without added pressures. I have heard from trauma specialists (don't know your issures) that trauma work alone can take anywhere from 3-10 years. No - there's no limit to healing; each is personal and depends on you, if you have a good therapist, and a bunch of other factors. Don't try to put yourself on someone else's time frame - you just take care of you, k?