Big hugs from me to you Metallover.My first response is were you put down a lot and found fault with in your childhood or as a young adult in maybe a school environment?You seem to think so little of yourself and negatively.

Is it because of your own inner critic I wonder?When we are verbally or emotionally abused we take on board what our critics say and our own voice becomes critical hard and judgemental when it is referring to ourselves.It is like we can't bear the pain of others doing that to us and find it easier to deal with the pain if we agree with the abuser,somehow we identify with the abuser cos we like them, we automatically agree,after all if someone I think highly of thinks I am loser with nothing going for me he/she must be right,is the conclusion we come to!

And that voice starts policing us and making us live up to high standards that are impossible to meet when we fall short we criticise ourselves and the negative internal critic is born.

Usually we then develop perfectionist attitudes and making mistakes isn't allowed and we beat ourselves up and think lowly of ourselves.

When we are aware this is going on and has happened we can stop that voice from bringing us down and start to think more caring and self loving of ourselves,so then our peace of mind grows,our low self turns into higher self esteem and we can start talking positively to ourselves and lose the inner critic.

Use affirmations,say to yourself I am ok just as I am,I no longer have a need to undermine myself,my opinion of myself gets better every day,I approve of myself,I love myself ,every day I give myself love and understanding,I am good enough,I love and support myself.Feelings of inadequacy do not reflect who and what I am and what I stand for in life.My confidence grows daily.

Thus by interrupting the pattern of self negativity we change our inner landscape and feel much more relaxed and more love for ourselves we see that the reality is we can feel better about ourselves and we are not that bad a person after all,we have worth as much as the person next to us.We can stop comparing ourselves with others and falling short too,each one of us is unique and special but of equal worth.