eyesclosed, from what I have been reading it sounds like your attorney is not doing the right job for you. I am sorry this has been leading to you fending for yourself so much. Sadly, there are crappy attorneys out there in the legal game.

It also sounds like everything each party owns that has value has to be recorded. The problem with attorneys is that their main interest is in their paycheck and billable hours. Unfortunately, they can begin to look at practicing law in a matter of fact way that can be hard on challenged clients that are often surprised by all the twists and turns involved with the legal process.

The average person tends to think that when someone doesn't fight things out in the legal system and just settles that means they must be guilty. However, that is not the truth but instead people tend to settle because they don't want the challenge dragged out which can actually mean for "years".