Part of me agrees that it can be a bit selfish but at the same time my daughter is asking for her and I to take a trip together so I want to do that for her at the same time. When I have explained to her that we should all go together and wait until we can all go at the same time she just say's that why do we always have to do things together, that why can't ever just have a trip the two of us. It kind of makes me feel bad. We have a close relationship since we've been on our own for 10 years now.