I have never said this to my H; but when a H and I fight, the subject can come up (all's fair in a fight?). Recently, he said, "I think you need electroshock or something..." When he said this he was the one who was aggravated not me. I simply had not executed what he wanted in the exact manner that he had suggested (an issue involving someone else, my T has said that it is not good when I am the go between when two other people don't get along--She is right). Sometimes a fight has nothing to do with MI, it is just that when you are in a fight, one or both of the fighters use anything from each others past to deliver a verbal punch!! That includes MI. Don't know if this describes any of your arguments.