You maybe needy now , but that may not always be the case , real friends don't keep score of who may need a hand or when , they are just there for each other .
I do see why your friends response was deflating , and I certainly hope that you will approach them again and not take what they said as final word, they very well could have been having a bad day or things on there mind , so don't be offended & hurt until you get clarification on there first response , if they however upon clarification meant it the way you took it, invest in some better quality friends . That said I have compartmentalized my life , I have friends that I vanished on , because I feel more like huge burden on people and I would rather them remember me as I was , not as I am now , I do have friends currently but they new my condition and came into this with there eyes wide open .

And I am sorry about your layoffs, but look at the bright side ( yep there is one) you didn't work for Wells Fargo . LOL