I've started developing feelings for someone recently, and it's the first time I've done so since actually dealing with DID. While I'm really happy and things are going really well, I've also been experiencing pretty severe anxiety sometimes when I think about it.

I found out in therapy when one of the alters came out not too long ago that one of our abusers told us that we're not allowed to have anyone else in our lives and there's a good chance that's where the anxiety is coming from. Despite knowing this, the anxiety is overwhelming at times and I don't typically deal with anxiety so I don't really know what to do aside from trying to do some deep breathing. I've never had to deal with this in the past.

The person I'm interested in knows this and has been really respectful about not rushing anything and we're in a fairly comfortable place but I'm worried that I might unintentionally push them away because of the bad feelings that are being triggered.

Does anyone else have experience with developing romantic feelings and have it being triggering? Was there something that helped?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.