That is totally not ok. I want to put that in all caps because I am furious at your t. What utter nonsense. And isn't it therapy 101 that you never blame the victim? I would seriously consider taking legal action. Report him to wherever you can, check with an attorney. There is just no way that saying that for any reason at all is ok. Unbelievable. And I agree-his explanation only makes it worse.

I am so sorry that happened.

I like the suggestion that you ask him if he wants to be punched, punch him and tell him he needs to say no more forcefully. In fact, I'd like to be the one to do that.