Thank you everyone. I'm sorry I haven't replied to more of you individually, but I really, really appreciate it.

I spoke to him on the phone. He still doesn't get it. He said he was sorry but I had to actually say 'can you please reassure me that you don't actually think some of the blame lies with me' to get him to say it to me. He took refuge in counsellor psychobabble and kept saying there was great therapeutic benefit in continuing our sessions. FFS. He also said he would never know what it was like to be a woman being raped but that most women wouldn't either. I just went numb at that point. He just doesn't get it.