So far all my counselor has said is that I'm an empath, and said she thought I probably avoid conflict at all cost (which is true). She did say we need to work on setting boundaries (like with my dad who won't quit drinking so he can get his liver transplant). I tend to try to fix everyone else's problems and avoid dealing with my own. Just like when I was a kid both my parents would go on a binge and be up for days and have horrible fights. Screaming at eachother cuz one of them cheated on the other. They'd call me at school to try to turn me against the other. My dad would tell me "yeah your mom said she was gonna take a bunch of pills to commit suicide" or my mom called and told me "your dad wears women's clothing when we have sex, he's crazy". But when I was home I would always sit in between them while they screamed at a each other so I could calm things down when they got too out of hand. I felt like the adult, at 10 years old. And of course I'm an only child, so I had no help. Funny thing is I had the PERFECT childhood before that. They were the head of NA meetings in the area. Head of the PTA at school, walked me into school and waiting 10-15 minutes with me until the teacher got there. And then it all went to hell