If you ever gave them your name on anything they probably have a file...

Ok - so to me it sounds like your self esteem is really low.
The first thing you need to do is simply force yourself to quit saying anything negative about yourself either to yourself or outloud.
Do the same for thinking negatively (ie "I can't do that)
Instead turn every negative you think of into a positive - and then add a reason at the end of the statement as to why it's true.
(ex I belong here because I live and breathe and I don't need permission to be here.)

The next thing to do ... realize your counselors are humans that are separate from you. What donI mean by that? They can give you all the advice and suggestions in the world (same as me) but nobody except you knows how you feel from moment to moment, so the best thing to do - is to try to listen to see if they tell you anything new that's useful... as far as techniques for relaxation or coping.

Otherwise, write out letters (that you dont send) to anyone that ever hurt you or was the center of an event that hurt you (ex my mom died n i wrote one about her death). Explain how you felt before the event. Then detail the event (how you felt n what happened n what you saw n etc). Then how you felt immediately after. Then how it has effected you since. Then what you would need to move on.

There are many relaxation things and coping thingz I can reccommenx but those are the best for healing. Remember tho... Counselors are not healers in the magical sense n downright suck sometimes so yes get what you can from them but do not rely on them.