My earlier post makes me sound like one of those people who are in abusive relationships that complain and whine about it but don't do anything about it. That makes a part of me angry.

I don't know how to do anything about it. I started to last night and I froze.

I'm sorry if I'm whiny and continue to stay and just keep taking it. I don't want things to stay the same. I just don't know how to change it.

I can't stand whiners and I don't want to do that and not do something about it.