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Crypts_Of_The_Mind · Apr 23, 2017, 02:56 AM

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Originally Posted by subtle lights

I think most of my friends see suicide as "weakness, nit being strong enough" etc. I'm not sharing my thoughts with them about this nor my issues. Maybe it would helo to be open with them and they might get a different perspective but I am unable to face their criticism lately.

Yeah, it's hard to imagine something you haven't experienced, but how hard it is to be open minded and accept whatever the other person is going through as valid?

My ex-boyfriend shared the same opinion, we used to have fights about this.

Possible trigger:

He once told me that he once met a very suicidal person and he basically confirmed to this person that he should follow through with his intent. He basically talked him into it. Like, "he was weak anyway".
I just couldn't accept that my bf could have been the same person to do something like this. I had to erase it from my mind and rationalise it, until we broke up years later.
I don't know if that person had actually killed himself. Possible that my ex told me but my brain deleted that part from my accessble memory.

It isn't hard to be open minded and accept it as valid - but it can become tiring after a time for the person who doesn't know what it's like because they have to constantly remind themselves what brings them great joy might bring you great pain and try to be supportive and patient. Patience in itself is taxing - but especially when you don't understand what it is you are being patient about.

Your ex on the other hand - took it to a different level. That isn't just lack of support or getting tired of it or even callousness - that is being destructive to another person and emotionally abusive to someone who is already frail.

You are right though - educating people around you, creates less stigma and enhances the conduciveness for support.