I hear that and understand that. I was responding simply with a different view of the situation and a take on perhaps what he was attempting to get to. It doesn't speak to me of victim blaming as much as clumsiness of communication. I personally wouldn't discontinue seeing a therapist for that one sentence where I thought he had otherwise been very helpful to me. I realize our circumstances are different (we all come from different places here). The OP is, of course, completely justified for her feelings about his words and whatever she decides to do about it will come from her much better understanding of her own personal situation and the intracacies of that specific therapy dynamic.

It really comes down to what the OP feels about the situation. If this is a therapist who, as she initially stated, has never said or done something like this previously, who she has found otherwise helpful, otherwise very professional and supportive, then she will have to decide if she wants to work through this and continue working with him, or if this is something that is a deal breaker for her. None of us can do more than give our various perspectives.

In no way am I either discounting the OP's feelings or decisions about this. As I initially posted, I too had a situation where the words of a therapist came out grossly wrong, and I suspect some might have never gone back if they had been in my therapy situation in that moment either. I discovered it was possible to talk through that and move forward continuing to have effective therapy with that therapist despite what had happened. I am glad I was able to do so instead of ending what up until that moment had been a good therapy relationship because I found out that it was possible to work past it and to continue effective therapy. I shared my story not to justify his words (which some seem to take my post incorrectly as), but to share a perspective on the possibilty of getting beyond a bad situation and still being able to preserve what otherwise had been a good therapy relationship. The OP asked for thoughts or advice on whether it is possible to get past this kind of thing, and I shared my personal experience. My apologies if my communication of my personal experiencing was taken as offensive to others, but it is as valid as anyone's I thought. I will bow out of this thread as my words are somehow themslves being taken as victim blaming which, most people here know from my own story, would be the last thing I would do.