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Old Apr 23, 2017, 07:34 AM
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Originally Posted by SoupDragon View Post
I have learned that I tended to have a "fawn" response to situations that I have been in, in the past. This allowed people to take advantage of me. We have explored why I would become passive and how I could give myself greater safety in the future, by being more assertive (shouting "get off"). I have not perceived this as blaming me for what happened, but a way of giving me greater confidence in the future.

The difference to me is the emphasis on the future. (Although I am not sure shouting "get off" guarantees safety.). OP's therapist's comment was focused on the past. And yeah, that makes it blaming.
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