When it comes to recognizing whatever you did not get as a child try to do your best not to decide that it was on purpose to deprive you. Unfortunately, people decide to have children knowing very little about child development and tend to think their job is to control the child rather than help that child develop their "own" identity. At the same time a lot of parents are still thinking about developing their own identity and how to make it all work where they maintain a home a, relationship and find a place in society.

You are in the same generation my daughter is in and one thing I have noticed about her generation is that the parents in my generation were very self involved and preoccupied. Many of them had their punch list of attaining something they did not have when they were growing up. I saw many of my piers going big and bold and making that a priority and not spending enough time with their children. Many of these parents did not realize that in that effort to go big and bold, they were missing out on important years with their children that they could never go back and redo. Many of my piers were living life in the fast lane, and unfortunately they did miss a lot when it came to their children.

If you never experienced swinging in a swing or going to the park or the beach with your mother where there were swings and you spent time enjoying the swings then do it for yourself, because that is what many do, they find ways to do the things they never got to do as a child.