Molestation is molestation. A rose by any other name still smells as sweet.

Your uncle sexually molested you. I'm not sure why you don't view it that way. I find that alarming, actually.

I definitely agree with your therapist -- that your depression and anxiety stems from that incident.

Do you think your fear of being ostracized and shunned by your family if you did reveal what happened to you, is why you minimize that event into something insignificant that happened to you?

You do realize that being sexually molested by a family member is the most common way that people are sexually molested. It's also healthier to be open about it, even if your dad or uncle gets angry. You may come to learn your family has some skeletons (other members have been molested in your family, is my guess).

I don't foresee your depression and anxiety disappearing until you properly confront your repressed feelings about being sexually molested. Stop letting shame and judgment from your family interfere in your healing.