completely normal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i almost spit out my juice... omg, so normal... this person has listened to you, focused on you, let you open up about fears and feelings...

i don't know how they would be inappropriate at all.

i will tell you that i spent 4 months with one T, limited number of sessions, and i was mad about him. i was mortified, embarrassed and scared. i suffered as much from not being able to tell him as i did from the longing itself. In my efforts to help myself i stumbled across the term "transference" and holy bat krap! It was all normal, expected, documented and researched. In my last session with him i asked him why he had never told me what transference was... how much of my therapy time did i spend in agony, afraid he'd figure it out? How much time wasted on that instead of me?

i told my current T about it and he said that had my former T and i talked about it we could have explored what was happening. i mean, it's normal to feel the attraction, but it's not about him.. god, i don't know anything about him. i don't know what he likes or doesn't like or anything. It was always about me... and it's about you... and guess who you're there to talk about!

i would have been relieved to have known what it was about. It made perfect sense that in my situation a handsome, young and caring man would make my heart skip a beat or two. i wish someone had told me, so that i could have talked about it with him in a productive way.