Hi Gaba

I'd say that on a level you do really see that what happened was a big deal as you recognise a potential of: "because I don't want to ruin the relationship my dad has with my uncle and the rest of his extended family" if you were to talk about it to him/them, so hoping it's alright with you for me to say that I'm really sorry this happened to you

As to your T suggesting you'd tell others if it wasn't a big deal to you...........do not feel guilted or obliged into doing this unless you actually want/need to, feel it would help........(or into not telling if it comes to it!!!)............it is a very personal thing and it should be entirely up to you who you tell.........although I am very glad that you have managed to raise it with your T and on here, just as long as you have someone supportive to discuss it with...........although if there is someone in your family you feel you can tell too...........just.........again, don't feel guilted into not telling.........

Now I don't know if the love and nurturing of your family throughout your childhood and time since then has helped you come to terms (because I think you know it was a big deal) and "heal"/move on from what happened, but I certainly think that it is worth staying open to the possibility that this may have had some negative impact on you, still have some negative impact on you, in some way and exploring that with your T because it is possible.

And comparisons...........well, something very wrong happened to you, something that shouldn't have happened, and just because other people might have had more happen to them doesn't make what happened to you any less wrong.
It would be good to think everyone got/could get the individual help/support they needed with the things that happened to them right?? And that includes you!!!

And finally..........real kudos for being able to open up to your T and on here, and I hope you can talk about it more (at least with your T) to be clearer on any effects/non-effects, and the way ahead emotionally and/or practically.



Alison