Thanks for your input, everyone. It's been very helpful. Yesterday, when I talked to my T about it (hubby was with me), he said I needed to learn to
'compartmentalize' my husband the way I do so many other things that I see as threatening that actually are not. In other words, he doesn't look down on me; it's my perception that he is. When he asks if I've taken my meds, it's out of concern, not disdain.

Why is it so hard for me to do that? Compartmentalize him as a safe person who understands me, because that's who he really is. It's my perspective that's warped.