The one thing I've learned from my mother is that she will never change. Believe me, I gave her plenty of chances to stop being abusive and to respect me and the boundaries I put up. But she's consistently been abusive to me over the years, never apologizing for it either. Berating me. Shaming me. Sabotaging me. Lying to me. Manipulating me. She is not the kind of woman who deserves a "Happy Mother's Day" card.