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Originally Posted by Bzmn8tv
I am curious how many are married with a bpd diagnoses. In 2010 our marriage had an explosion. I've not been ok since. My husband has had severe trauma as a child also and is diagnosed with depression anxiety and OCD. I'm wondering if we can ever be a loving couple again. With me getting this diagnoses. I'm concerned. He doesn't apologize much. I do to much. I own the diagnoses. Doesn't make it easier. Not at all.
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First, welcome to PsychCentral.
Next, yes it is possible to have a successful marriage with this diagnosis. It is even possible to do so with both partners having mental health issues. Each partner, however, must be dedicated to working on their own issues both for themselves and for the myriad of ways those issues affect the relationship. You cannot have one partner say "if you go to counseling and work on your issues we will be fine" and the other one not nor can you "take turns" (ie one partner get counssling first and then the other). Marriage is a partnership relationship and if both of you do not feel or relate to each other on an equal level (especially when mental illness becomes a factor) you cannot keep the marriage healthy.